Thanks Kiki Lu. I kinda learned it from Harville Hendricks and imago therapy. I took some workshops, where they taught all about how we look for the person who can heal us through romantic relationships. He has a book called Getting the Love you Want that startede me off in this imago therapy thing. Imago means image, and their theory is that we don’t really see the person we’re in relationship with, we tend to just see this image we project onto them, from our own woundedness I guess. Been a while, but I thought you might like it. Check it out.